Funerals and kids

My aunt passed away on Tuesday. She was 95. I loved her a lot. She took care of me when I was a child and my memories of her were very positive. I went to her viewimg and burial. And even though death is never a desirable experience there is a positive side to this and that is that she will never suffer again and I like to think she's in a better place now.

Here is what is bothering me though. Yesterday before attending thee viewing, I was told by two people that I should not be taking my son to the viewing or funeral. That he is too small. I 100% disagree. I don't think it's ever too early to expose a child to death. Especially a death of a family member. I think the earlier they understand death the easier it is to cope with it when they get older. A the burial, my son saw my aunt in the casket, and saw many family members mourn our loss. People cry all the time, in movies, cartoons, tv shows and even family for different reasons, why should a funeral be any different? I doubt it will traumatize my 2 1/2 yr old. And I was there the whole time explaining to him that he should say "bye tia" and he said it and he threw a rose on her casket. I think that our bond just got a lot stronger. Yes my son is probably too young to understand any of what is going on but this is the same reason I feel I should not deprive him from being at a very important family function. My son has every right to have the opportunity to be present at OUR aunts funeral. If anything we should not mourn her death but celebrate her life.

For you parents that think your kids should not be exposed to this....why the hell not? Aren't they as much family as you are? Death is a fact of life. They need to learn that no one lives forever. Why shield them from the fact of life that is death? In reality no one is ever ready for the fact of death. I saw family there crying worse than a hungry newborn. Maybe they should of got kicked out for not handling it well? If my son asked me to explain death to him I will tell him what it is. But he is too small to ask. The day I tell him stories about my aunt, I want him to know that he was there with me. I want him to know that he was there to say goodbye, that he was there to pay his respects. I know my aunt would of wanted my son to be there. It felt good to have my son be part of what took place today. He is after all, family.

The Doors and the Alphabet song

I have been meaning to introduce my son to some more music other than the Beatles. This time I started playing the Doors. I bought a new phone, the Motorola Q 9C and it doubles as a music player. So what did I do? I loaded the player with MP3's. I fire up the music and hand over the phone to my son. He didn't want to give it back to me. He had the Doors blasting when we went to eat at Rubios. He's not singing the doors yet and I don't expect him to because some songs you can't understand some of the words. But it's a start. He calls my phone "the music box". (I taught him that)


"The Music Box" This is the new Motorola Q 9C from Sprint


Ok so we're sitting at Rubios eating fish tacos, and the wall next to us is painted. Has drawings and words. My son starts pointing at the letters pretending to know what they are. He points at the letter and is complete off. But the thing I noticed which is fine by me is the fact that he knows they are letters. So there I am correcting him and when we get to the letter "O" I ask him, what letter is this? He replies "O" I was in shock! Ok so this is the only letter he got right but he's on the right track! I didn't have time to sit with him today and recite the alphabet because we were running around doing things but I was amazed!

One of the funny things to this story is that while I was correcting him with the letters he got wrong he would sing the alphabit song. I would point to the letter "T" he would get it wrong and I told him "T" and he would sing "UVWXYZ" and I would just start laughing. OMG!! Kids this age are something different.

My son sings to the Beatles!

I blogged a few weeks ago about my son singing. I keep playing The Beatles songs in my car. Let me say that he LOVES The Beatles and I can hear him jam in the back seat! I love all types of music and when he comes to stay with me he sometimes sings hip hop his mother play on the radio. And as much as I do like hip hop and rap, I would much rather have my son sing REAL music. I rather have my son sing Beatles than the latest Pit Bull song. (No offense Pit Bull I do love your music) There is so much more music and talent in music from bands that play their own instruments. And by no way am I getting my son not to listen to hip hop WHEN he gets older.

So my sons favorite Beatles song is Do you want to know a secret. I can hear him try to keep up and whatever he cant sing he hums, but whatever he can say he'll say it clearly. I am totally having a filed day with this! I can't believe I got my 2.5 yr old son into The Beatles! And when the song is over, NO! he does NOT want to hear the other songs. He wants me to play this song again! When the other songs come on I ask him is he wants to hear it and he says no. He wants to hear, Do you want to know a secret!

I think the next band I'm going to get him to listen to is going to be The Doors! I love Jim Morrison! Then after that will be Santana! I so want my son to get into music at a young age. He did lose his shynes because I'll watch him and he sings. He doesn't seem to mind who see him now. I might even buy him a cheap MP3 player with some good music on there. My son is very receptive to my music and I love it!!!!

Mother throws her 2 kids off overpass and she also jumps

I was watching my local news a few nights ago and I saw a report of a mother throwing her two kids off an overpass. I really don't get it. Can someone explain this to me? Even if you retarded crazy, what compels a mother to want to try and kills you or hurt your children. These are children, innocent kids that don't need to be dragged into your adult problems. I don't care how insane she claims to be, she needs to be locked up for life! The report also says that Child Protective Services had been involved before. WHAT??? So what you are telling me is that this is what needs to take place before you deem the mother unfit to take care of her children? UNBELIEVABLE!! In cases like this, there is NO ROOM for mistakes. Small children are counting on YOU to protect them.

I have a son and never in a million years could I ever imagine hurting my cute adorable little boy. And every time I hear of someone hurting their children I just want to do unthinkable acts to these people. The thought of a small child in pain against their will makes my blood boil!!

Here is the article off MSNBC

I hope she gets what she deserves!!!!

Charlie Bit me!!!

OMG this is too funny! I was sifting through my myspace bulletins (yes I have one!) and my good friend Alayna posted a youtube video you need to watch! It is too cute!

NO! You DON’T know what it’s like!!!!

This is a blog a wrote a few weeks ago on my myspace blog regarding people that tell me they know what it's like having a kid when they in fact DON'T have a kid.

Read on:

I'm sick and tired that time and time again (ok only twice) I meet a girl working somewhere (at the uniform shop and at the bank) they will ask me about my son so I ask them "do you have any kids?" They say no but that they know how it is because a) they took care of a sibling because a parent is working and b) because they live with a "3 yr old"

NO! it is NOT the same!!! It is NOT the same to have the responsibility of taking care of your own child and taking care or living with someone else's child.

Now I'm not knocking down the fact that, yes you gain experience and maybe what it could be like to have a child but until you have a kid of your own you have NO idea what is is to have a child.

When you have your own child you stress out about what they will eat for dinner, what you will buy them for their bday or xmas. You ask yourself whether you can go out this coming weekend and if you will be able to find a baby sitter. When all you do is live with a child, or simply babysit a child you don't have any of these concerns. Sure maybe for the time you baby sit you do and yes maybe you do buy then stuff for their bday and Xmas but you DONT HAVE to do it. You are not required or obligated to do these things. Then after you are done baby sitting, back to the parents they go and you can go out and party.

So don't sit there and tell me that you know how it is if you don't have your own kid. If you can't go out because you are babysitting is because YOU agreed to it. If I can't go out because I have my son, I DON'T have a choice. He is my obligation. A kid you are babysitting is NOT your obligation.

To be fair, my son doesn't live with me full time. I get him on my days off work. But consider this, I can't go out on work nights (it's called being responsible) and when I am off work I have my son and I can't always get a baby sitter to go out so I am assed out!

If YOU can't baby sit a kid one day you can say "sorry I'm busy I can't do it", and the REAL parent deals with it. if I cannot find a baby sitter, that's to bad for me, I cannot go out.

As a babysitter you ARE NOT obligated to provide for that kid. As a REAL parent you need to spend some of your paycheck for your kid, it's your obligation.

Consider this next time you are there at work sitting down telling a REAL parent you know what it's like:
Ask yourself who is taking care of the kid while you are at work? If you're answer is not: with my significant other or a family member babysitting or at a babysitter, or if you never had the stress and responsibility of finding a babysitter you DON'T know what it's like.

So unless you experience these things and there are many more that only a REAL parent goes through, don't sit there and tell REAL parents you know what it's like because YOU DON'T! DON'T insult us like that!

Don't base you babysitting experience (sibling or not) on being a reason to want to have kids because it is NOT the same thing and you WILL see a difference.

When you baby sit, the kid goes back to their mom and dad, With your own kid YOU ARE THE PARENT! There is NO taking him back anywhere. You are in for a RUDE awakening.

By no means am I saying having a kid is bad. In fact it is a fun a rewarding experience but don't expect it to be the same as simply babysitting.

If you still argue that it's the same, go ahead have your own kid then come back tell me it's the same thing after some punk kid tells you they know what it's like because.....

It will change your whole outlook and you will know what I was ranting about!

Pete Ellis Dodge

I remember as a kid when I lived in Los Angeles there was a commercial that fascinated me. I was a commercial for a local car dealer in the Los Angeles area. Pete Ellis Dodge. It featured their location jingle with a little bouncing ball over the words. I used to get a kick out of this commercial as a youngin' Just recently I was remembering this and I actually found video on youtube. Someone actually posted the video! I haven't seen this commercial in years! And now that the dealership is out of business, well this would explain why no more commercials are being produced. So here is the video!

Brings so many memories of watching cartoons on KTTV and KCOP back when they had afternoon cartoons. My how things have changed since then!

Missing Madeleine

I was watching Dateline NBC the other night and they were talking about the missing British girl named Madeleine McCann. As I was watching the segment, somethings seemed fishy to me. Now I'm not saying the parents are suspect because the evidence presented is not solid but one thing is really bothering me.
Why the HELL would you leave your children asleep and unattended while you go have dinner and drinks??? Especially drinks! ARE YOU KIDDING ME??? Even if the hotel room is within view, this is just crazy!!! From the diagram presented, you have a clear view of the hotel room FROM THE OUTSIDE! but you have NO IDEA whats going on the inside. Apparently someone broke in from the side window that overlooks the outside street. But why would they only take Madeleine McCann (the little girl) and not the twins sleeping right next to her?

I would NEVER in a million yrs leave my son sleeping alone even for one minute. Even with locked doors and even for 5 minutes to grab something from the store. Either he comes with me or I wait till morning when he wakes up. As a parent I just don't understand how you can have a relaxing dinner while leaving 3 small children unattended. I know in the United States is unlawful to leave children under 18 yrs old at home alone. Obviously adults here work and sometimes kids come home while the parents aren't home yet but thats part of everyday working life, you have to work to live.

Here is the picture if the little girl:



I hope lil Madeleine is alive and well and that someone returns her to her parents or to someone MORE responsible. Because I think what happened to her is BULLS**T!

Here is the website link to find lil Madeleine and bring her home:

Bring Madeleine home